“I missed you!” “I missed getting tickets to the event.” “Thank god, I missed the pothole.”
Can something ‘go missing’ if it is not missed? To ‘go missing’ means (to me) that there is a place where something was – something I counted on being there and is no longer there, thus leaving the hole for the something I am missing. It seems to imply that this missing can be both a good and a bad thing – with a ‘taking for granted-ness’ or a relief about it. ‘Going missing’ can be complicated.
I do not think about the local Electric Company except when I pay the bill. I don’t think about them when I turn on my coffeepot each morning – at least I didn’t, until the snowstorm last November when our power was out for 72 hours- and the electricity ‘went missing’.
I cursed the potholes on 15th Avenue every time my car’s wheels threatened to disappear in their depths. They were apparently filled last week. I didn’t realize I’d missed them til this writing.
What about missing someone? If I had just finished talking a little sooner, I wouldn’t have missed the traffic control person ticketing my car for an expired meter. And what about the co-worker who moved to Nebraska? Each time I walk by her office, I miss her gentle presence.
I’ve been missing. I’d made a commitment to write on this blog each week, and I’ve missed making good on that promise. As I turn this around, did I feel sad that I did not get it done? And was that because I enjoy doing it or was it a failure to not do it? And who did I promise this to? Actually, myself- and wisely put no time-line on it. I must have thought I’d ‘go missing’ at some point – at least for a while.
It appears that ‘going missing’ encompasses a disappointment of some sort – a pleasant surprise (no pothole) or a frustration (no coffee). Possibly either good or bad, but not meeting some expectation.
What or who are you missing? Who is missing you?